One of the hardest and most common things people struggle with is ‘change’. Even if they want nothing more. It could be a different job, body or relationship, taking the first real steps towards change can be extremely difficult. Some may even feel they have two legs thigh deep in concrete with no choice but to stay put.
Reality is this. If you want something to change in your life it is up to you, and you alone, to change it. Yes you may look at how people treat you, your partner, your boss, even family members, however the sad truth is that while ever you allow people to treat you a certain way, they will. This is because it is up to them to change their behaviour and up to you to change yours. We can try with all of our might to change someone else to suit our needs, but save your energy, you cannot change anyone but yourself.
When it comes to weight issues and wanting to change the body, the facts are the same. You must make the effort. Only you can change what you eat and how often you exercise. If a medical condition exists that hinders your fitness efforts, talk to your Doctor regarding your options and alternative exercise/diet plan.
If there is one thing I know from life experience – It is imperative that people take responsibility for their own lives, for the change they desire.
Take responsibility for your happiness.
Take responsibility for your choices.
Take responsibility for the outcome.
There are many things that happen to us in life that are unfair, and not of our doing, but, how we choose to move through and past those things onto other things that are of absolute benefit to us, is our responsibility and only we can take the steps towards that.
I myself have experienced many things that I now look at as prods by the universe and a lesson learnt. For a long time I questioned why I was such a bad person, I mean I must have been bad at some point to endure some of ‘bad’ things I had endured. But the truth was, it was simply my opportunity to stand up for my life and make the choice to move in a direction that suited me. From physical and emotional abuse to teen pregnancy, chronic anxiety, depression and a complete nervous breakdown in my early 30s. I have experienced poverty and near homelessness along with judgement and excessive manipulation by others, even people I loved and trusted. It wasn’t until I hit my mid 30s that I decided enough was enough and it was time for me to drop the ‘I’m not worthy’ baggage. If there is one thing I can tell you with absolute certainty, while ever you believe you are ‘not worthy’ people will take advantage and find it incredibly easy to convince you you are right.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel, in fact it is all around you all the time, you just have to develop trust and faith within yourself, and although you may have been told one thing for a very long time, there is a strong possibility that it is simply not true. There comes a time in many people’s lives where you have no choice but to STAND UP and look up… look life directly in the eyes and decide you are worth the change.
When I came to the point of knowing ‘change’ was the only option I had…I asked for HELP.
Here are some ideas if you are finding it hard to move ahead in life.
- Get a Life Coach.
This may not be an option for all, as they can be quite expensive, however, if you can find the money, or one that doesn’t cost a lot, employ the services of a Life Coach. I was fortunate enough to spend some time with Brett White at Life Plus Coaching in Taren Point. Brett offers a 45 minute introductory consultation FREE of charge. What I found after a few exercises with Brett is that I held the power all along to get my life under control, I just hadn’t read the ‘how to’ textbook as yet. There are a few simple tasks you can bring into your life that will change how you deal with everyday dilemmas and also how to steer your life down a more productive and beneficial path.
- See a Psychologist or Counsellor.
Sometimes you just have to work out what it is that’s holding you back or bringing you down. A good psychologist will guide you through things you may have already considered, but just didn’t know how to deal with. It is essential that we know how to drop the baggage we’ve been lugging, because 9 times out of 10, the baggage isn’t going to fit through the doors of opportunity when they open. If you don’t know whether a Psychologist, Counsellor or Psychiatrist is who you require, speak to your doctor. They will provide referral to a practitioner that suits all of your needs, including finances.
- Create a CIRCLE.
Ask a few friends to meet once a week/month to discuss life’s issues. People need the support of others when life doesn’t quite smell like roses. Get a trusted circle of friends together to talk or brainstorm ideas on how to get everyone on a path to change. Set goals for each other and then help each other in achieving them. Many hands make light work. This goes for everything. If you are having a tough day, call a circle member. Some things are best dealt with together.
The key thing I want people to understand is Life Responsibility. It is our responsibility to steer our lives towards the outcome we desire. We must see ourselves as extremely valuable gems that deserve the highest level of care and consideration. We must love ourselves immensely, and value our life as the precious gift it is, to make the changes we wish for.
Take the leap of faith and dive headfirst into YOU!
Samantha Jane – EDITOR @ I AM
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